Year One

So I was going to post about something else today that was on my mind but I got one of those notifications that say, “Hey! You’ve been blogging for a whole year! Congrats!” and I figured I should probably share that with you all dear readers.

I know when a lot of people hit awesome milestones, they like to share what they learned and offer advice and all that. I’ll keep it pretty simple and tell you what seems to work for me.

When I first started blogging a year ago, I blogged everyday. About halfway into the year, I realized that everyday blogging is completely unrealistic for me. Blogging is a hobby. I do it for fun. The minute it started to feel like my job, I started hating it. Just like a regular job, you need days off to stay sane and between writing my own content and making sure I check blogs from my regulars, it just became too much. So, I say to you, find a rhythm that works best for you. If you don’t post every single day, don’t sweat it. The people who love your content will be happy to see a post from you whenever you get one out there. Trust me. Those are the people you write for; the ones that keep you motivated. If blogging is your job, well, I’m jealous. 😛

The second most important thing I learned is write whatever the hell you want. Seriously. Don’t worry about what people are going to think or say. They’re going to think and say whatever they want anyway so you might as well get it out of your system. You’ll feel great about sharing your thoughts, ideas, art, what have you, and even if you have a negative Nancy, you can handle it. It’s your blog. Do not let other people dictate how your write and certainly not what you write. You need an audience, sure, but your audience comes from various backgrounds, shapes, colors and creeds. Some will relate and some won’t. Doesn’t matter because you are writing for you and that’s ALL that matters. If someone doesn’t like your blog, they don’t have to look at it and feel free to tell those people that. If someone loves your blog, make sure you let them know how much you appreciate them whether that be just in the form of a comment or visiting their blog and getting to know them better.

Lastly, and it’s the best one yet, have fun! I don’t know about you but I’ve been super creative this last year content wise. I’ve talked about all kinds of stuff! Food, books, TV shows, emotions, I even shared some poetry from high school. I’ve made some really close friends around the world who I just know will be my forever friends and I thank this blog so much for that. So, to all of you who have been following Reactionary Tales sometime in the last year, thank you. I hope to continue bringing you creative, original stuff. I appreciate you all on this sunshiney, snowy (at least where I am) Monday morning and I hope you all are having the best start of the week even if the team you were rooting for lost the Superbowl last night. 😉 (For the record, I know nothing about sports so that last bit was for fun)

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Anniversary

Long time ago back in like 2004ish? (I can’t remember specifics), Nel was a young kid getting excited for high school. Because of certain neighborhood events that occurred, my mother decided she wanted to move away. Since this move was happening right around school starting and my mom didn’t like the ratings of the school district in the area we were moving to, she decided to homeschool me and my sister. I don’t know if the school still exists but it was my first venture into the world wide web. There was a homework help chat room a lot of us would frequent and not talk about homework.

One day this cool guy comes strolling in the chat room legitimately looking for homework help. It was pretty comical at first but he really wanted to get a good grade and back then I was great at math. He was looking for help with understanding Algebra II quadratic equations. So I decided to help him. So we get on Skype and I share my screen so he can follow how I’m solving the equations. I’m sitting here explaining the steps and he interrupts me to say he didn’t really care about the process; that he just wanted me to give him the answers. Of course, I said you won’t learn that way if I just give you the answers but he didn’t care. I can’t remember if I caved or not and did his homework. Definitely sounds like what a hopeless 16 year old romantic would do. We ended up deciding to have an internet relationship after that.

I don’t even remember how long the relationship actually lasted but I ended up breaking it off cause I was falling in love and it scared the hell out of me. Yes! Nel was a coward! We went our separate ways for the duration of our high school years. Back then MySpace was really popular and I sent him a closure message along the lines of I was an idiot but I wish you well in your life. I didn’t expect him to answer me back but in 2007 that’s exactly what he did. He was having a rough time in his life because his car got set on fire and his life was just in this crazy chaotic spiral.

When I saw the message, my heart soared. I won’t deny it! I ended up turning into that friend that low key wanted to be more but didn’t want to be a home wrecker. But if the chance to date him again was ever presented itself, I’d take it.

It was August of 2007 and for one reason and another, he broke up with his girlfriend. I truly was sorry their relationship ended because they seemed so in love but I screamed inside when he asked me to go on a date with him. Yes, I was the rebound chick but I wanted to be! Plus, it would have been the first date I’d ever been on in my life. My mom was out of town but I was a very responsible teenager so when I called her and told her, she agreed on one condition. She wanted to talk to him and pretty much glean every piece of information out of him except his social security number… It was so embarrassing! That night over watching Superbad in theaters, eating peanut M&Ms and Chinese food, we bonded.

It’s now 2017 and here we are. We’ve endured lots of bads but plenty more goods in ten years. There were truly moments where we didn’t think we’d endure the test of time but we’ve exceeded even our expectations. If you ask my husband, he always without a doubt, from the first moment, that I was his forever. I, on the other hand was skeptical back then but now I can definitely say I agree. With Endangered Thursdays being tomorrow, I thought I would share this with you all today. Officially, tomorrow is my ten year dating anniversary and it’s a miracle I haven’t gifted my husband yet because I usually get so excited and impatient to know his reaction to his gifts. I’ll share the story behind the gifts another day in case he decides to take a peek at my blog, I don’t want him to know what I got him.

I will however share pictures of us from 2007 vs. 2017 for you lovelies:

Hope you all have a happy Tuesday. ❤