You’ve Gotta Watch This!

My co-author and I have spent many days, nights, and weekends fighting our way through Downton Abbey. I originally began watching it years ago when it first aired on PBS. (I didn’t have cable at the time – and still rarely watch anything besides sports.) When I met Chanel she opened my eyes to the wonderful world of books and TV shows. I’ve always loved to read but was told, at times, that it was a “waste unless you were bettering yourself”. Now, I argue you can learn something from almost each one you pick up!

A few months ago I was doing dishes waiting for my boyfriend to get home and opened my computer. I realized that we had Amazon Prime when my Netflix subscription ran out. …and Downton was the first thing that popped up on the watch list. Knowing I had gotten way behind on the original airing I rewatched from the beginning. Chanel did the same.

Originally, I was interested because of the historical content. (I also just watched my dog eating from a flower pot outside. How nice.) The more episodes I saw the more in depth each relationship and side story became. I was completely and totally enthralled with the idea of living as an English monarch and what troubles came with that title.

I finished the last episode a few weeks ago and I still haven’t quite…recovered. I think that’s probably the appropriate word. My life was filled with the wonder and elegance from Downton for months and now I’m watching Curb Your Enthusiasm to help cope.

I think my most favorite character from the show is probably Aunt Violet, The Dowager Countess. She’s famous for one liners that can shut you down or make you sing – and I absolutely adore her. I think, to some degree, everyone can agree with her on this…

 “Principles are like prayers: noble, of course, but awkward at a party.”  

If you’re looking for something new to watch this is an awesome show. Give it a few episodes before you make your own decision – but it’s something I’d watch again from start to finish. If you do pick it up, or have watched it, let us know your thoughts and favorite characters/episodes. We’d love to hear them! 🙂

I Don’t Doubt It…

I got a call late last night from a dear friend who told me she’s likely getting a divorce. As I sat up in bed to focus on the call and her situation, I realized how I felt when I was in her shoes. As a young person who has also been divorced, I know the thoughts of doubt, hurt and uncertainty that she was having. The longer I spoke with her (and then her sister) I also began to understand why I never doubted my own divorce.

I got married right after turning 20 to someone who I had spent the prior 5 years dating. We were married for 3 years before I pulled the plug. My friend is in a similar boat – she married at 18 and is now facing the reality of a pending divorce at 25. I could hear how worried and scared she was just thinking of starting over on her own. …and I know that I was once there, too.

However, looking back, I can see that it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve grown more from my divorce than anything else I’ve experienced. Only through that experience did I learn not to doubt my integrity, character, and hard work. I began to see my value and worth outside of my appearance and the things I owned. I learned what it meant to be a real friend and how truly special it is to find those real friends.

…and now to one of my very best friends, I am able to stand alone and tell her that I cannot and will not Doubt  her decisions. I will be beside her to hold her hand and to laugh with her through the good times and the bad. Real friends care about truth and happiness.

The truth is: I don’t doubt that it will hurt and I don’t doubt that she will be stronger, wiser, and better because of this.