Short Post

I’m working from home today and man am I enjoying it. In the past, I’ve never had a job with such flexibility. Saturday afternoon our contractor realized, after ripping up our living room carpet, that we need one more day to finish. Since he’s already worked 6 days in a row we told him to take Sunday off and come back on Monday which required one of us to take a day off. Since my husband took all last week off, I volunteered this time because, well, we can’t afford him to take off any more days. My boss is so cool and understanding that she was just like, “sure, that’s fine”.

It’s still surreal for me because I’ve never had a job where there was a work from home option. Most of the time it would require rearranging a whole week’s schedule or trying to find someone to cover but when you work for a small business it’s so completely different. What’s also really neat is my ability to multitask has grown even more. Even though I’m working from my computer, I’m also scrubbing the bathroom down at the same time. Who considers a chore like that a happy day?!

Maybe my mood is pretty great because the sun is shining and it’s supposed to be 70 degrees today but, it’s definitely a great day. I hope you all are having a good Monday whether you’re at work or at home or anywhere in between.

🙂

Generalization vs. Type

Over the weekend I got to talking with a group of my Twitter buddies. The discussion started out being about the Kindle Paperwhite and just evolved into something else. We’re all huge fans of the romance genre so we got to talking about the types of romances we like versus ones we don’t really care for. It was a pretty healthy conversation and it got me thinking real good about how I have generalizations and how I have types and I thought I’d share that today.

So when I think of a generalization, I think of a broad statement about something I may like or dislike. For example, I like berries. Now this is a simple example but let’s just say I like the overall category of everything berry.

When I think of type, I think of it as a subset of a generalization. Keeping with the berry example, I love blueberries and strawberries but I’m not a huge fan of raspberries and blackberries for example. Now I’ve broken it down to the types of berries that I prefer over the ones I don’t.

I like to think of different media forms the same way. For example, I prefer epubs over all other book formats. I don’t necessarily dislike the other formats, I’m just so used to using epub since the beginning of ebook time that that is my personal preference. However, I will make an exception and take advantage of a different book format if I can’t find it in epub and probably still enjoy the book just as much.

Going back to the romance discussion, we were talking about the different subsets of romance that we like versus ones we don’t normally gravitate towards. Most of the time I gravitate towards urban fantasy romance, paranormal romance, and romantic suspense. Some of the other girls broke it down even further talking about how they liked alpha romances, dark romance and MM (male/male) romance. There were a bit of agrees and some disagrees, which is natural cause we all have different tastes.

However, I pointed out how you never really know what your type is until you try it. I correlated this to how there are so many authors on this planet and they all write differently so just because you think you won’t like a type a book, you can’t know until you read it. For example, I explored dark romance this year, a couple books actually, and didn’t think I would like them but surprisingly ended up loving one author’s style and only thinking the other author’s style was decent. If we’re talking Goodreads rating scale, one was a 5/5 for me and the other was 3/5. But again, that’s one book out of the bunch. Just because you think you love an author’s voice, doesn’t mean you’ll like every book they ever write either because authors themselves like to explore with their writing.

A lot of this stems from an author asking me to read their ARC, which happened to be a psychological thriller to review. I accepted. Over the course of a few weeks, the author seemed to get impatient cause I hadn’t left a review yet and kept sending me links to all the positive reviews on Amazon in order to show me how great the book is. What ticked me off however, was when the author said, “It’s okay if you don’t leave a review. The book may not be your type.”

I had to let her know, for the record, that I don’t have a type. Do I have general book preferences, yes, but I’m willing to try anything. I don’t care if it’s a book, food, movie or activity. Ever hear that phrase, “Don’t knock it til you try it?”, I stand firm by that statement. I understand authors don’t want negative reviews and will try to justify why they got one anyway they can by making it seem like it was the reader and not the book but I think that’s a wrong way to go about things. You’ll only lose a potential fan that way.

Do you have book generalizations and types? Have you ever had an encounter like the one I had above? Let me know your thoughts below!

Your Voice

I was browsing social media, as I usually do most days, and I came across this video of Oprah interviewing Trevor Noah for some show of hers or another. If you don’t know who Trevor Noah is, he’s a late night news comedian from South Africa. I personally find him quite funny but also very intelligent. So I was listening to this interview and he gushed about his mother and how she groomed him to be the man he is today. Then Oprah asked him about how he feels he wants to be portrayed to the world through sharing the news cause his whole goal is to share the news in a fun, sometimes serious (depending on the topic) way. He said something that really resonated it with me and I kind of want to break it down with my thoughts and get some of your input in return.

The first thing he said was:

Human beings no longer see human beings on the other side of discussion… and it’s tough to say that one side should be empathetic to the other side when the other side doesn’t see them as human beings either.

First off, I thought this was quite an interesting thing to say because it definitely got me thinking about the way in which I engage in discussion with other people and how I normally react depending on the topic. I can’t necessarily say that I disregard what or how another individual says or thinks because I consider myself every open minded but I can admit I feel a sense of pause when it comes to certain topics. Obviously, this is natural because we all have our strong views, morals, ethics on certain topics especially when we’re crazy passionate about them. But I wonder if I’ve ever made someone feel less than human because I was driving my passionate vision on to them.

It made me think about this author/reader/publishing debacle that’s currently trending, at least on my Twitter. I won’t name names but basically there are authors out there who participate in manipulating readers into sympathizing or empathizing with whatever is going on in their life to the point that they walk a fine line of receiving things they didn’t necessarily earn. I know that kind of sounds like a jumble but ultimately it’s kind of equivalent to a person freely transferring all the kindness and support inside of them to an individual without the expectation of reciprocity but end up being used in the end. This kind of thing makes me wonder when that individual stopped seeing you as that generous human being and into something less inferior.

The other thing he said that resonated was:

If your character shifts because of who’s in power, was it your character to begin with?

In regards to his quote he’s relating it to politics but when I heard that, the two words I froze on was “character” and “shifts”. I was thinking about this for the rest of the day and on the drive home I asked my husband, “how do you define your character?” I explained to him the context in which I heard this and he said to me that he believes people’s characters fluctuate based on perspective and experience but at an individual’s core, it usually stays the same.

I have to agree in that respect. I think character is definitely fluid. I mean the word “characteristics” is derived from the world character itself. I tried to think of it like a character in a book where usually you have a hero, villain, or anti-hero. You go into it knowing what to expect and hope that the characters stay true to themselves. If they’re introduced as douchebags, I hope they stay that way throughout or die (cause I’m evil). Do I like happily ever afters? Sure. But I don’t want all my books and movies to be that way. When it comes to real life however, my hopes are completely opposite. The character I meet in the world, I hope they stay consistent with their views towards me. I realize, again that character is fluid so we are bound to change here and there but I guess I like to surround myself with characters with open wide minds, and I don’t mean about their personal lives, because that comes with time, but just in general.

I don’t set out to change a person’s character because I disagree with something they say or how they view the world but I hope that I could plant one tiny little seed in their mind that could maybe, just maybe, if not shift their views towards the middle a bit but at least get them thinking about someone or something other than themselves. Is that wrong? Do you think that goes back to not seeing the other as a human being? It’s quite interesting how these concepts are intertwined.

Like with most subjects, I could go on and on and on about what I’m thinking but we’re coming up on 860 words and I want to know what you all think. I’ll link to the Youtube clip below were I copied pasta’d the quotes if you’re interested in watching it. Again, he relates it to politics but I thought beyond that scope. Hit me with it in the comments below!

(Source: Youtube)

Register

Have you ever created a registry for something?

It’s not fun.

Not even a little bit.

Who willingly likes making lists?? I’m taking volunteers to make mine. Thanks.

That’s all I have for today.

😀

The Future.. cont’d

Yesterday I spoke about cool technological advances that I thought would be cool if they came into existence. Since then, I’ve thought up a couple more but I thought of talking about things that would help our future if we went in the other, declining direction; i.e. towards extinction. Now this post is not to scare you all cause I like to think we as humans are able to figure it out at least before the sun blows up (cause it is a star you remember and that’s the fate of all stars).

My husband showed me a video last night of this YouTube channel he follows called Primitive Technology. Basically a guy bought some a plot of jungle land in the middle of Australia somewhere and he films himself doing very basic, or primitive things like building a hut and tools, etc from what you find in nature. It’s quite mesmerizing to watch. I’ll share a video below but every time I watch one of these videos I think of how useful it would be to have these types of skills in case we spiral backwards into an apocalyptic world because when you think about it, no matter what happens to us, nature will always reclaim it’s territory. This is evidenced in lots of photos and videos around the world of what used to be a city now looks like a jungle. There’s actually one of those close to home. There used to be an amusement park called Geauga Lake. It was very popular but then it fell on hard times and closed. Now when you drive past Geauga Lake, it looks like a straight jungle because nature literally seeped through the cracks and is thriving on top of our man-made structures.

Here’s a video of the man building a hut from scratch in his new area:

After watching this (and getting sucked in and watching his other videos) I started thinking about the constant circling around travelling to Mars. Scientists recognize that Mother Earth is dying and they are just a small group of a giant population trying to figure out alternatives. I remember seeing a video once of a group that saved genetic material of many animal species including some that are extinct. The group is called The Frozen Ark and they currently have over 700 cells, DNA and gametes from various animals sitting on -80ºC ice in the hopes of preserving natural history. There’s another “doomsday” vault in the frigid ice habitats of Norway called the Global Seed Vault. Here they do the opposite of the Frozen Ark and preserve seeds of plants from past and present. Currently, they have 930,000 seed varieties stored here and these seeds have come from all around the globe. 200,000 of them alone are just rice species. Boggles the mind right? These are considered stop gap measures if a plant species were to be wiped out completely or we were to colonize Mars and get a fresh start. Well, and also, they’re nerds so this is like the coolest collection a nerd could have. 😉

I just thought this would make a great followup post because we really don’t know where the future is headed and honestly most of us will probably be dead by then but I like seeing this evolution of thinking of what could be in either direction. It also goes to show that there could be a decent balance between technology and nature to the point that we are able to make these happen like preservation or even rehabilitation because we’ve become advanced enough to do so.

Did you watch the video? Do you have his skills and come come teach me?? What do you think about these vault collections of various species past and present? Do you think we could go backwards but in a good way with technology instead of full steam ahead of full on technology? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

The Future

How often do you think about the future? I don’t mean in terms of your short or long term goals but in terms of innovation! While driving to work, I have this habit of looking around at houses and land and all that jazz because I have dreams of my husband and I building our own house one day with solar shingles and geothermal and all the good stuff! Not exactly a smart house but a sustainable one. We don’t want to go completely off grid, in fact, we’re such technological information hogs that we want to very much stay on the grid but we do care about the environment and the direction our mother Earth is going and try to do much as we can in a small city.

So anyway, I was thinking about all this cool tech and possible inventions that could come out in the future. I have to admit, some of it comes from watching the Netflix series Altered Carbon but some of these ideas I’ve had on my own. For example, wouldn’t it be SUPER COOL if glasses wearing people like me had mini windshield wipers on their lenses?? It would be a huge help when you’re walking outside with no umbrella or even just to give your lenses a good clean every once in a while because glasses are microscopic, dirt attracting magnets and trying to clean them without leaving streaks is such a pain! I realize that’s probably why contacts were existed but again, for people like me who eyeball touching makes me squeamish, having wipers on my glasses would be a godsend!

Another thing I thought would be cool is if they made VR (virtual reality for those unfamiliar with the term) glasses that you could use for book but that could like connect to your brain and project your imagination while you read! Think about it, when you read a book, you imagine what the characters look like, what the setting looks like, all the action scenes, the love scenes, the tragic scenes. The VR would be able to grab this picture out of your head and project it while you read. Maybe the story words pop up inside the VR off to the side and things just start appearing as you read. I mean I already love the immersion in my head so I can only imagine my scenes being played out before me. It would be sort of like being your own movie director in your own home.

Lastly, so the post doesn’t get crazy long cause I have so many ideas, is of course a teleport machine but specifically for travelling not for everything cause that’s just a bit too lazy for me. I always think about how it would be cool if we could travel to our dream destinations in minutes instead of many hours, half of which are spent in an airport due to layover. Or even just visiting that online friend you’ve gotten to know over many months and finally want to meet but they’re marginally far away. Or, not even just for fun but for emergencies. I’m obsessed with Grey’s Anatomy and you know sometimes they have the tragic episodes where patients can’t get to the hospital in time to be saved from dying so I think it would be cool to be able to transport someone who’s life is in danger to any world renowned hospital in a couple minutes. I don’t know how it would work exactly since I don’t think we’ll ever be advanced enough to disintegrate our solid bodies into tiny particles to be transported and then reformed at our destination but it would still be cool! However, I think we’ll get slightly close with the Elon Musks of the world looking to make Hyper Loops reality.

I could go on but I wan’t to know what type of ideas do you all think would be cool if they were invented for the future? Let me know in the comments below!

Rumis #2

Long while ago, I made a rumis post. I forget what it was about and since I transferred the blog it got lost in cyberspace maybe (I didn’t actually go search for it; laziness and all that). In the post I talked about something that was weighing on my mind. Well, today I’m having another one of those and I feel like sharing.

Have you ever had someone tell you that they’re the type of person that doesn’t do well with confrontation? I’ve been thinking about what that truly means because when I hear it, I view it as someone who doesn’t like to invite drama in their life or maybe they don’t do well with drama. So I decided to Google it.

Definition of confrontation

the act of confronting the state of being confronted: such as
a a face-to-face meeting 

  • confrontation between the suspect and the victim
b the clashing of forces or ideas conflict 

  • a violent confrontation between rival gangs

Both of these definitions seem quite hostile wouldn’t you say? When I talk about confrontation, I generally mean it in terms of if you have a problem, whether it be with a person, place or thing, you address it. I’ll be the first to admit that I can be very confrontational and not in a bad way. If there’s something wrong, I want to know and if a person doesn’t volunteer the information on their own, there’s a huge chance I’m going to ask them up front. If I have a problem with a product I bought, best believe I’m calling the seller or manufacturer to fix it or give me my money back. If I had a bad experience at a place, I will most definitely make the place aware of my negative experience and even go so far as to leave a negative review if they seem like they don’t care.

I wasn’t always this way. It was actually my husband that brought this out in me. I used to be the queen of giving people the silent treatment. It wasn’t so that I wouldn’t have to confront them, it just made me feel like I had the upper hand because I wasn’t responsive. I can remember arguments we would have back in our dating stages where I would treat him like he didn’t existed even though we lived in the same house and slept in the same bed. It came quite easily because again, I felt I was the superior one and could talk on my terms not his.

Let me tell you, I almost lost him over it.

He broke down one day. Told me that he knows I’m really upset but he needed me to know how the silence was hurting him more than me not talking about my upset. It was a pivotal moment for me, let me tell you. I ended up feeling like complete shit because I realized he was right. How do you solve a problem with continual silence? How can someone know what’s really going on in your head if you don’t say anything?

I always tell everyone I’m not a mind reader. I’ve learned to use this phrase over and over again. I learned the lesson best while working in retail and experienced all the behind the back talking because people were too afraid to speak their minds but found it really easy to gossip to other people. It’s literally dumping fuel on a spark that is going to turn into a raging fire. I also learned that it doesn’t help to be passive aggressive either. Again, most of us are not mind readers. Sometimes it simply needs to be spelled out if you’re at all interested in a problem getting fixed. So I became that manager that speak to people head on. Some people appreciated it and some people didn’t and that’s perfectly fine but I had to job to do and ultimately it made my staff comfortable enough to come speak to me instead of spreading gossip every day.

I’m definitely not perfect and I know I can be a tough individual to deal with but I always promise honesty and I have no problems apologizing for something if I’m in the wrong. Does that make me a confrontational person? Maybe, but I think ultimately it makes me a better human being in general. In a world where most of us talk to each other on the internet, I often ponder how people can’t be more bold and more forward even if they aren’t in real life. It’d be a real confidence booster if you ask me considering it’s like a 5% chance, maybe less, that we’ll ever meet in real life. That’s not how I roll of course. What you see is what you’d get in real life but the screen is almost more of a confidence booster than a dampener I would think. But we’re all different so I definitely don’t fault anyone at all who has a different though process. All I want to do is understand, apologize and fix stuff so we’re all happy in the end. Is that too much to ask? I don’t know; maybe.

What do you think? Do you view the definition of confrontational different than Merriam Webster? Would you consider yourself confrontational or non-confrontational? This is a touchy subject so don’t feel obligated to comment if you don’t want to!

Blind

A friend of mine recommended a book for me to read recently. I’m part of the Ultimate Reading Challenge which lasts the whole year and I’m reading my tearjerker for this month. It’s highly likely I won’t finish it til March 1st because my life got in the way and I forgot February is stunted but so far I’m enjoying the story immensely and is what inspired this post today.

You ever think about the many definitions of one word or the many ways it’s interpreted? The main word revolving around my book is the word “blind“. While I was driving to work today, I was thinking about the many ways a person can be blind. There are lots of famous phrases for the word of course but I wanted to touch on a few that occur pretty regularly in a person’s daily life.

The most obvious definition of blind that comes to mind is a person who physically cannot see. Either they were born that way maybe lost their physical sight due to disease or another reason. To piggyback off this definition, there’s also color blindness as well; people who do not have enough cones and rods in their eyes to be able to see color.

Following physical blindness, there’s blindness of the mind. What I mean when I say this I always think about dreaded politics. I’m not a fan of talking about politics but I admit I do engage in conversations here and there once in a while. I liken blindness of the mind to being closed minded; a person who is unwilling to see past what they believe, their specific morals, ethics, etc. When it comes to getting into a debate whether it be politics or something else, there are people who are unwilling to open their mind and see another person’s point of view on the same subject matter. Or maybe they are willing to see but don’t care to really listen. I guess in this scenario, having an open mind and open ears kind of go hand to hand. Sometimes you can find a break in the stronghold of another person’s mind and sometimes you can’t. It’s hard to make someone understand that you aren’t trying to change their mind, you just would like them to see how your thought processes are evaluating the same topic. I guess the phrase, “walking in another person’s shoes” could fit here.

Lastly, I think of emotional blindness or blindness of the heart. A good example of this could be “love at first sight“. This is a common phrase where a person feels at one glance they’ve met the love of their life. Sometimes that’s true and sometimes it’s wrong. When it’s wrong, people will often shut down their “heart’s eyes”. I mean that in the sense that they are either unwilling or do not believe that they can ever open their heart to another person again. The same thing applies to friendship. Once you’ve been burned once or twice, you become wary of opening your emotions or “breaking down that barrier” to another person. Or maybe even the opposite is true where you can’t see “the writing on the wall” so to speak; that it’s obvious the friendship is going down the drain no matter how much you try, or don’t try, to salvage it.

At the end of the day, in any scenario of blindness, you become reliant on all your other senses, whether they’re physical or emotional. Trusting your other senses becomes quite interesting and intriguing when you think about it because your “eyes” make it so easy. Anyway, I can’t wait to see how my story develops considering the ways in which it inspired me to write this post today.

Do you ever think about the many interpretations of a single word? Are there other definitions of being blind that I didn’t cover? Let me know in the comments below!

Intelligence Level

Super late post today. My morning was something else.

The other day I was listening to some morning radio show on the way to work and they were talking about how, I guess, society measures intelligence levels. Usually you’re either street smarts, or have a highly developed common sense level, or you’re just book smart. There’s also the in between which is an average of sorts but there’s many variations of average depending on which way you lean on this intelligence scale.

A person who has street smarts is generally termed as someone who is quick on their feet. They are able to make smart decisions on the fly without little to no research and little to not thought because things just make sense. I like to equate them to people who could lead you into and out of a forest without a map because they are able to just gauge light patterns and moss growth and natural things like that. They never get lost.

A person who is book smart is generally someone who pretty much keeps their nose in a book and get all their information from books without looking at the practical world much. They are full of facts and knowledge that maybe useful or may just be useless and when it comes to making a decision, they need lots of time to think about it; weigh pros and cons, do research, get a survey of other people’s opinions before ultimately deciding the best course of action. As for navigating in the natural world? You can forget it. You’ll be lost.

Then there are those in the middle. Those who lean more towards the book smart but still have a decent amount of common sense and those who have tons of common sense but know just enough from a book that it comes in handy in certain instances. I like to think I’m a mixture of the two. I’m sure we all do. I do a lot of reading but I also have a lot of practical knowledge of the world around me. I want to do things as quickly and painlessly as possible and I have no trouble making snap decisions when necessary because they just make sense. My husband leans more towards the common sense part of the scale than I do. First off, he’s a human atlas. He can navigate through a paper bag in the dark buried in the ocean. It’s surreal. He’s also really good at making snap decisions which is good sometimes and bad other times.

I can say, from working a lot of retail and meeting a ton of different types of people, there are a lot of people who definitely need more common sense. You can read every book in the world but it won’t prepare you for real life scenarios where you have to base your judgement and decisions on instinct. Instinct is the root of it all. It’s the key to our personalities and whether or not we lean one way or the other on this imaginary intelligence scale.

So then really would that make us all average(ly) intelligent?

Curious.

Where do you think you weigh on this scale? Are you more book smart or street smart? Let me know in the comments below!

Slacker

Yep. That’s me. My blog is probably going to slow down at least on the original content for a bit. I just have no motivation to write this week so far. Plus, I have a lot going on with ARCs that need to be read, getting estimates for work on the house, trying to keep cooking healthy every day, doctor’s appointments, work, life in general. Add to that, there are 4 freaking feral cats that live under our deck outside and they howl at the moon like they’re in heat for hours at night.

Did I mention I’m a super light sleeper? It’s hell. So now I have dreams of cat repellent or running them away with a broom. I love animals, don’t get me wrong, but these cats keep waking me up. I know they’re being fed because they are bigger than my cats so I refuse to feed them considering how much they stick around our house anyway. So yeah, losing sleep because cats in the night makes me grumpy. 😦

I still plan to do Thursdays and Friday posts for now and if inspiration strikes, I’ll write whatever that content may be but if I disappear for a while, all of that above is why. I should pick it back up in March though. I just need to get caught up with life so the blog has to take a backseat.

Lastly, just because, if you have not seen Black Panther yet, you should! Shuri is my spirit animal and Okoye is my spirit warrior. Its a little bit more grittier than previous Marvel films but nevertheless its absolutely stunning. Also, the jokes aren’t forced, they just blend right into the commentary which is aweeeesome! I’m probably going to see it again either this week or next week but I just want to say, highly recommend and if you want to talk about theories with me, I’m totally down.

Have a good Tuesday everyone!