You’ve Gotta Watch This!

My co-author and I have spent many days, nights, and weekends fighting our way through Downton Abbey. I originally began watching it years ago when it first aired on PBS. (I didn’t have cable at the time – and still rarely watch anything besides sports.) When I met Chanel she opened my eyes to the wonderful world of books and TV shows. I’ve always loved to read but was told, at times, that it was a “waste unless you were bettering yourself”. Now, I argue you can learn something from almost each one you pick up!

A few months ago I was doing dishes waiting for my boyfriend to get home and opened my computer. I realized that we had Amazon Prime when my Netflix subscription ran out. …and Downton was the first thing that popped up on the watch list. Knowing I had gotten way behind on the original airing I rewatched from the beginning. Chanel did the same.

Originally, I was interested because of the historical content. (I also just watched my dog eating from a flower pot outside. How nice.) The more episodes I saw the more in depth each relationship and side story became. I was completely and totally enthralled with the idea of living as an English monarch and what troubles came with that title.

I finished the last episode a few weeks ago and I still haven’t quite…recovered. I think that’s probably the appropriate word. My life was filled with the wonder and elegance from Downton for months and now I’m watching Curb Your Enthusiasm to help cope.

I think my most favorite character from the show is probably Aunt Violet, The Dowager Countess. She’s famous for one liners that can shut you down or make you sing – and I absolutely adore her. I think, to some degree, everyone can agree with her on this…

 “Principles are like prayers: noble, of course, but awkward at a party.”  

If you’re looking for something new to watch this is an awesome show. Give it a few episodes before you make your own decision – but it’s something I’d watch again from start to finish. If you do pick it up, or have watched it, let us know your thoughts and favorite characters/episodes. We’d love to hear them! 🙂

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My Bestfriend’s Husband

Life has been a little crazy for me lately. One friend told me she’s getting a divorce (yay!), we went to a funeral, and another friend just told me she thinks her husband’s cheating. Here’s the thing: he wasn’t…and she has. I’m her BFF, was her MOH, have spent more nights out partying with her than I care to admit, and I told her she should’ ve never gotten married.

…what the hell do I do?

I talk to this chick everyday on the phone while we drive to work. I cried on her shoulder during my divorce. We go to dinners as couples and are contemplating a vacation for the four of us. Now this.

Let me give you the back shory…her husband’s family owns a bakery -so he, his brother, dad, uncle, and mom all work together, aside from a handful of high schoolers who help out. His brother is currently married and has been for a good three years – to a girl they hired to work at the bakery. My friend and her husband got married at the courthouse so they could get a special loan on their home. They didn’t tell anyone they were married, not even their parents…well…I knew, of course. A year and a half later they had the “real” deal.

My friend has had flings with people from Craigslist, dishwashers at bars we went to, family friends, and even her husband’s relative. I’ve known about them all (or so I think). Her husband doesn’t know about any of this, so we think. My boyfriend is appalled and so are many of my friends. I just don’t know what to do at this point. I stood beside her at her wedding, for God’s sake.

The high school students are generally women. On several occasions my friend has told me that they text, call, and Snapchat her husband. At no point in time was she overly upset or worried by this until this last time. Tuesday my friend calls saying that her husband’s brother was found in the bathtub with one of the girls. …his wife went home early from work because she was sick. Long story short, they have been in this relationship for 6 months, the young girl tried to commit suicide over this man, and now he and his wife are “working it out”.

My friend’s husband was “friends” with the same girl. He was completely shocked when they told everyone the news. So, he’s been calling and texting her every day – even bought her flowers for Valentine’s Day, and she’s sleeping with his brother. When my friend found all this out she was irate. She left the house and wouldn’t tell him where she went. He called us crying (he’s never spoken to us on the phone before) begging her to go back home and talk to him. He swears he’s never even touched the girl but my friend is convinced otherwise.

Now my friend is saying her trust is completely broken and their relationship will never be the same. I told them that they should try counseling. (Been there, done that, and would do it again.) My problem is this: her husband has been completely open, honest, respectful, and apologetic about his inappropriate relationship with his associate. However, his wife, my friend, has not been honest with him. She has blown this out of proportion by lying, getting unnecessary people involved, and by stretching the situation to it’s maximum capacity.

While on the phone with her husband I was inches from telling him the truth about her past several times. He seemed so hurt, confused, and alone. I wanted him to know that he’s not the only one who has made mistakes and that we all learn and grow from our choices. On the other hand, I didn’t want to rock the boat anymore than it already was. My boyfriend tells me not to get anymore involved than I already am – basically don’t stick my nose where it doesn’t belong. My co-author tells me I should for sure say something. I care for them both and don’t want to see them get divorced about something silly or the past but damn.

What’s a girl to do? What would you guys do in my situation? Has anyone ever been in this situation that can provide feedback? Anything is appreciated as I try to be a good friend to them both.